Is Your Success Based on Results OR Efforts?

There is a well-known saying “Success does not lie in ‘results’ but in ‘efforts, ‘being’ the best is not so important, ‘doing’ the best is all that matters.” What’s your view? To measure success, we need to determine our current situation and our desired situation, and what value we put on the need to reach our destination. Let’s use a metaphor to describe this. I want to climb a mountain. This is going to be the highest and toughest mountain I’ve ever climbed before. Now I’ve had some experience climbing mountains and am reasonably fit (although could be fitter) and am already doubting my ability in being able to reach the summit. Let’s say, I have made every effort possible to train, by regular walking, tramping, running and building up my stamina to ensure I am able to climb this mountain. However, on the day, despite every effort to conquer

Where Are You?

Where do you see you in your life right now? Have you done everything you said you would? Did you think you would be further on than you are? Do you feel you’re going one step forwards and one step backwards? Where are YOU? There is a great quote by C S Lewis “You can’t go back to the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”. I just love this quote because it almost gives us permission to say where we are is the GO position, the beginning, and we can think differently about where we want to be. But sometimes we are too fearful of trying new things and taking those steps into the unknown, or into areas we don’t feel so confident in. This reminds me of the other quote which I also like by John Shedd “Ships in harbour are safe, but

Decisions, Decisions, Decisions

What are we most afraid of? Making the wrong decision OR not making the right decision OR not making a decision at all! Tom Robbins is quoted as saying “Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach” But as the saying goes “indecision becomes decision with time” – but what’s the consequences of lack of action or wrong action? Often the truth is we are afraid of making a decision that will backfire on us. To help us make a decision we need to be methodical in our approach. Here are 6 steps you might want to consider: Write down all the options you have and what the expected outcomes are likely to be – this helps you feel more comfortable with making the decision as well as helping you decide on which is the best option Focus on a positive outcome - whatever the outcome it’s

We’re Going On a Bear Hunt!

I was recently made aware of a children’s book called ‘We’re going on a bear hunt’ by Michael Rossen, and this made me think about how this relates to us in our adult lives. The children’s book is portrayed as an exciting and thrilling adventure with a success of sorts at the end, which is scary and frightening but exhilarating at the same time. This made me think that this is what we do all the time in our personal or professional lives. In the book, the challenges are getting through long grass, a big river, thick mud, deep forest, cold snowstorm and a dark cave before the bear is seen! What I particularly loved about the challenges in the book, was how they were portrayed in overcoming such ‘obstacles’. There were 3 choices to go over it, under it or through it! And of course, none of the above

How Determined Are You?

You might have your own business, or you might work for an organisation. You might be retired or just starting out in your career. You might be embarking on a new venture in your life. BUT! How determined are you to do it and how do you keep being determined? Are you determined? Let’s look at what determined means. The dictionary says it’s about being strong-minded, unwavering, untiring, firm and resolute. Would you say this is you, or is this you sometimes, or only with certain things in your life? I bet you are like most of us in that you might be determined some of the time with some of the things and not with others, or that determination wavers from time to time due to other factors in our lives. There are two sayings about determination that I really like: “You’ve got what it takes – but it

Life is 10% – Reaction 90%

You’ve probably heard the saying “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it” by Charles R Swindoll? However, have you ever really thought about this in depth and how we can and do apply this in our everyday lives? I am sure you can all relate to the fact that we are made up of our experiences and those people who influenced us in our early and informative years; those people who were our role models, and those whom we thought were ‘right’! We all have good and bad days, and on the good days, if you’re like me then you might be more patient and understanding than on those real ‘bad’ days when you might feel everything has gone wrong, and you have that ‘can’t be bothered’ mindset. We might have something thing happen to us on a good day and react to

Fly Like a Butterfly Sting Like a Bee

What does the phrase fly like a butterfly sting like a bee mean? Just before entering the ring, Clay said what would become one of his most famous quotes, and a phrase used to define his fighting style: "Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. The hands can't hit what the eyes can't see." What happened in the end? Clay won by a technical knockout. It seems hard to believe that our own belief systems can be changed and that our mind is powerful enough to believe in something if we tell ourselves enough. Don’t our children believe in what we tell them? What happens when our child hurts themselves? “Mummy, I’ve hurt myself”. We ‘kiss’ it better and the child skips away quite happy in the belief their hurt is now all better. Isn’t this what Muhamad Ali did? He felt that what he couldn’t see couldn’t hurt

It IS Possible to Change Your Core Beliefs and Behaviours

“It's the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.” Muhammad Ali If only we realised that we are in control of how we think and feel, how we choose to behave and our emotional reactions to things that happen in our lives. To start changing our core beliefs, we must change our behaviour, which starts with making a pact with ourselves, having a mental agreement that we will change our perspective and our viewpoint about ourselves and how we react to the challenges we have in our lives. I’ve used fear of public speaking or fear of spiders before to illustrate examples as these are easy for most of us to relate to. Fear of public speaking or spiders is not a core belief it is our reaction to that belief, our emotional reaction to what we perceive

Always believe in yourself!

“Believing in others is easy. It’s believing in yourself that’s the real challenge” Giuseppe Bianco Do you believe in yourself? You know if you don’t no-one else will! But if we believe in ourselves, eventually everyone else will start believing in us also. We must be responsible for creating our own happiness and should always live our lives with meaning. If only we understood that if we believe in ourselves then we would be unstoppable, with anything being possible! It’s being determined and saying I know what I want and I’m going to get it, and getting it! Belief is the best investment you can make in yourself. So, how can we start the process in investing in ourselves? Motivation – Motivate yourself to get you started and remember that eventually believing in yourself will become a habit. Imagine – This is the first secret. Using your mind to really

Being Wise Like an Owl is a Hoot!

We hear about belief systems a great deal, but what are they and how can we use them to help us day to day? As the saying goes: “A wise old owl sat in an oak. The more he heard the less he spoke, The less he spoke the more he heard, Why can’t we all be like that wise old bird”. Unknown author Whilst we are trying to be all things to all people and sometimes being a master of none, we are also trying to tackle those things which we aren’t experienced or knowledgeable in and end up overwhelmed, or worse still being burnt out! Here are FIVE tips which I want to share with you: Listening to others – we often think we know best because we don’t want to show our ignorance or lack of knowledge in something, but listening to others and being open about