Do you find that you create road blocks in your life?
As humans, our behaviour forms patterns, good and bad, creating good and bad habits; it’s the bad habits we want to lose, creating new good habits.
We are wired to sway towards the negative rather than the positive, looking at the problem rather than the solution, putting roadblocks in our way, worst of all not letting go of things that worry us.
What are these road blocks we often create in our minds that seem so insurmountable we let them build up, making it difficult to function properly?
When the going gets tough, what do we do? Our self-belief decreases, self-doubt increases, we distrust our own abilities, allowing road blocks to grow so big we are unable to function properly.
The definition of roadblock is a “temporary installation set up to control or block traffic along a road”, yet we often use this word, referring to it as permanent!
How do we let go of roadblocks and see them as a temporary installation and give them a completion date?
In the words of the Billy Ocean song, “When the going gets tough the tough get going”, we need to do as our mothers told us! Get back up, shake ourselves down and let go of what’s happened and move on.
This is easier said than done, perhaps you are one of those people who find it hard letting go of things?
Here’s 4 tips on letting go to help move forward positively:
- Make an active decision to let it go; mentally break down the roadblock giving it a completion date
- Own the situation, realising that this is a stepping stone, and metaphorically step over the roadblock
- Take ownership of the part we played in the situation; this is the first step in moving forward
- Once realising this is a temporary situation, make an active decision to fix the problem and then let it go, putting it behind us, looking forward, realising none of us are perfect, and we all make mistakes
So deal with those road blocks, step over them and let it go..