Are you Hanging Onto The Familiar?

Are you hanging onto the familiar?
Why do we hang onto things we are familiar with and accustomed to? I was reminded of a colleague who worked with me in local government during one of the many 4-yearly restructuring (in 1996), which would affect over 37,000 employees! Jean had worked in local government for over 20 years and told me how much she loved her job, her team, and her environment; how safe and comfortable she had felt, and without realising, had mapped out the rest of her career remaining the same, without change! I asked her about her last 20 years as first-line manager. She told me she had progressed from administration into management and over the years had taken on various roles, in different offices with changing teams! I asked her what she loved about her role and environment and she spoke with such passion about how she just loved her life and work

Opening the Envelope of Change

When I ask people what they think of change, most think of it as a negative word rather than a positive word – why is this? Have you had bad experiences with change being imposed on you in an organisation you have worked for? Have you had to make changes in your work or home environment due to health or financial reasons? I’m sure many of us can think of many occasions where change has been a ‘hurdle’ we’ve had to jump, or a decision that’s been uncomfortable for us to make, but have you ever thought about why change itself gave us the bad feeling it does? More often than not, change makes us feel insecure, develop fear, fear of the unknown, scared of what might be to come. I would like you to share with you some strategies I have created for myself in the past and for

What do you see when you look out the window?

What do you see when you look out the window? Do you see the past or the future? Do you dwell on mistakes made in the past or opportunities for the future? Do you reflect positively on what you’ve done and optimistically about the future? Do you see challenges or obstacles? You’ve no doubt heard the saying? Learn from the past Live in the moment Plan for the future How many of us spend our time dwelling on the past, the things that went wrong, the bad times, the mistakes we made and the opportunities we didn’t take advantage of? We all make mistakes and the fact is that sometimes the mistakes we make create obstacles in our minds and cause us to lose confidence in ourselves. Instead shouldn’t we learn from the past and see that the mistakes we make have taught us great lessons in life to take

Catch Your Super Hero Dreams

I’m probably not alone when I say I’m guilty of letting my self-belief falter occasionally, letting self-doubt creep in, and then in the night what happens? These huge obstacles rear up like a big black monster blocking our way, leaving us with a waking feeling of negativity and impending pessimism! Instead we should be working on positive feelings morning, noon and night to keep our motivation motor running! But somehow, the motivation motor slows down and those night-time obstacles become more real preventing us from finding our motivation pedal! Our dreams which were caught up in our dream catchers seem to have gotten up and gone in the night! Why is this? I was reminded of a song I heard on the radio the other day by M People from 1995 – ‘Search for the Hero Inside Yourself’, and particularly the chorus which goes: “You've got to search for the

If Only I Had Longer Legs!

If Only I Had Longer Legs! If only I had more money! If only I felt more positive! If only I was more successful! If only I could achieve my potential! If only I could achieve my goals! Are you guilty of being stuck in ‘if only’ conundrum? Whom do you blame? Others? Yourself? If you’re blaming others, then you’ll never overcome obstacles preventing you from accomplishing what you want. If you’re blaming yourself, perhaps you’re stuck in a rut, with diminishing self-belief, the result of which means you won’t achieve what your goals. I was reminded of this at the weekend when climbing Purple Peak. The tramp started off steeply downhill before a steady steep climb uphill! The view of Purple Peak was breath-taking, but my stamina was seeping, my faith in my ability futile. I felt like giving up, but couldn’t as I was walking with friends and

Letting Go…

let it go
Do you find that you create road blocks in your life? As humans, our behaviour forms patterns, good and bad, creating good and bad habits; it’s the bad habits we want to lose, creating new good habits. We are wired to sway towards the negative rather than the positive, looking at the problem rather than the solution, putting roadblocks in our way, worst of all not letting go of things that worry us. What are these road blocks we often create in our minds that seem so insurmountable we let them build up, making it difficult to function properly? When the going gets tough, what do we do? Our self-belief decreases, self-doubt increases, we distrust our own abilities, allowing road blocks to grow so big we are unable to function properly. The definition of roadblock is a “temporary installation set up to control or block traffic along a road”, yet

Life is SO Complicated!

Life is SO Complicated! I was reminded of the Kinks song – ‘Life is So Complicated’ whilst thinking about this month’s theme of Removing Obstacles. What do we think of when we think about obstacles other than those things or blocks that prevent or hinder us from our own personal or professional progress? Some of us may refer to obstacles as problems or difficulties that are a hindrance or barrier to getting things done, putting hurdles or obstructions in our way creating a blockage or stumbling block thus creating an obstruction preventing us achieving what we want in our personal or professional lives. How easy is it for us to remove those obstacles and stop our lives from being SO complicated? I believe we can overcome anything we want to. I recall as a child often saying, “I can’t do this”; my mum’s reply was “There is NO such word

Where There’s a Will There’s a Way

Where There's A Will There's a Way Do any of the following statements ring any bells for you? 1.   When a problem is on my mind I can’t sleep 2.   I worry about things all the time 3.   I feel bad when I don’t get done all the things I had on my daily list 4.   I worry about not being good enough Worry = concern / fear / apprehension / anxiety Worrying is probably one of the, if not the biggest time waster. Worrying drains us of energy, motivation, confidence and abilities. We end up having this argument with ourselves – on the one hand we have the willpower to get these things done, but our imagination completely takes over and not only leads the way but wins! Positive thinking articles and self-help books are plentiful, and yet clients tell me one constant is worry.. Worrying won’t make the

Bringing Value and Balance into your Life!

Bringing Value and Balance into your Life! We talk about work / life balance, bringing positivity to our lives instead of looking at what defines us as a person, what makes us tick, what makes us value ourselves as a person. We all have values and these change during our lifetime. This could be due to a change of job, career or circumstances. Our values define what is important to us in our everyday lives. But do we know and understand what our values are, and can they help us feel more positive about what we do and why we do it? For most of us we have different values for each aspect of our lives, professional and personal, and so need to determine what these are and how they describe us. Would you agree that values are important as they help define what we think, what we say and

Give Yourself a Grateful Kiss!

Give Yourself a Grateful Kiss! Sometimes things happen in our lives that turn us inside out and back to front, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job or our health, but somewhere most of us find the strength to mentally get back up, dust ourselves off and manage to keep going, other times we feel we just can’t get up again, and why should we as we will just get knocked down again. Have you ever had this feeling? Have you ever felt this way? What did you do? What can you do? As children, our mothers gave us that special hug that ‘makes everything better’ or a kiss on our ‘hurt bit’ that makes the pain go away. As adults, this doesn’t work as we realise that wasn’t real. How can we bring back positive thinking? How can we re-ignite our motivation? How