If Only I Had Longer Legs!
- If only I had more money!
- If only I felt more positive!
- If only I was more successful!
- If only I could achieve my potential!
- If only I could achieve my goals!
Are you guilty of being stuck in ‘if only’ conundrum?
Whom do you blame? Others? Yourself?
If you’re blaming others, then you’ll never overcome obstacles preventing you from accomplishing what you want.
If you’re blaming yourself, perhaps you’re stuck in a rut, with diminishing self-belief, the result of which means you won’t achieve what your goals.
I was reminded of this at the weekend when climbing Purple Peak. The tramp started off steeply downhill before a steady steep climb uphill! The view of Purple Peak was breath-taking, but my stamina was seeping, my faith in my ability futile. I felt like giving up, but couldn’t as I was walking with friends and didn’t want to let them down.
Had I bitten off more than I could chew? I looked back at how little I had trained over the last month or so due to personal circumstances, and now was paying the price! Something, that only a month ago I would have managed no problem now seemed too difficult.
I repeatedly told myself, if only I had walked every day my legs would have been stronger, if only I’d gone to the gym every day I would have more stamina, if only…
I realised how unhelpful focusing on if only’s was, and instead focused on dealing with the task in hand – putting one foot in front of the other, taking one step at a time, walking in the right direction towards my goal – the Purple Peak! I was tempted to look down and not ‘see’ the climb ahead, but instead kept my head up and kept my eye on my destination.
The lesson I learned was to let go of the ‘if only’s’ and do what I need and want to do and just go do it! Focusing on the task in hand and removing those perceived obstacles that prevent us from reaching our goals.