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You ARE allowed to have emotions!

We all have emotions, good and bad, positive and negative, helpful and unhelpful, don’t we?

The good emotions we love are:

  • Excitement
  • Joy
  • Love

However, the bad, tough or tricky ones are hard for us to accept, and these are:

  • Stress
  • Worry
  • Sadness
  • Guilt
  • Anxiety

We do need to accept that ALL our emotions are reasonable and legitimate and there for a reason and a normal part of us being human.

But how can we accept the good and the bad equally?

We could imagine and see our emotions as visitors!

We could acknowledge them coming for a visit, welcoming them in, allowing them to be there, hearing what they have to say, and them seeing them off when they leave.

Treating them like visitors might help you come to terms with their visits more easily and dealing with them as you would the good ones, although in a different way.

All visitors come with something new to tell us, so seeing them as messengers and listening to what they are telling us.

Getting to know and understand our emotions as well as accepting them means we accept us and ourselves as human beings, as well as what the emotions may bring or tell us.

What might our emotions tell us?

  • Slow down
  • Breathe
  • It’s okay
  • You can do this
  • You will be okay
  • Look after yourself
  • Put yourself first

Imagine them as an ocean, the good and bad emotions ebbing and flowing just like the tides, they will come and go. There are calm seas and stormy seas, but these moments pass. It’s all part of life and life’s ritual.

We could try to:

  • Stop fighting them but accept them
  • Embrace them instead of resisting them
  • Like them instead of disliking them
  • Accept them and what they say rather than denying they are there

Feel your emotions no matter what they are or what they say. They are with us and here to stay, so like other things in our life, we need to go with the flow, don’t we?

And if you feel you can’t then it’s okay to ask for help. Reaching out is okay and the more we do this the more others will follow suit.

Why not lay out the welcome mat out for your emotion visitors and see what happens?

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