Staying Connected

Who would have thought three months’ ago today (Christmas Day) we would be in total lockdown in New Zealand with people all over the world in social isolation! It’s hard to imagine, just so surreal and so difficult to comprehend! Like you, we are all experiencing so many emotions right now, feeling scared, anxious and worried. With such an uncertain future, we are bound to have good and bad days, concerned about the health of ourselves and our loved ones, uneasy about what the future holds for any of us financially with the potential lack of jobs and struggling businesses. This unclear and unprecedented situation makes us feel like we did in the earthquakes, that the ground beneath us has just shaken us to the core, however, on this occasion its worldwide and will change the world as we know it. With all this in mind, we do need to

Helping Ourselves

We know that stress can affect our bodies and our minds, the way we react, our responses as well as the physical responses that can affect our health and wellbeing. We know the whole concept of fight or flight, and that in the ‘caveman’ days we used this to our advantage to fight or flee from the danger whatever or whoever that was. However, today, we are more civilised, don’t want to upset, or offend. We put on a pretence, ignore the signals our mind and instincts tell us and carry on regardless. When we do this, it affects us in a myriad of ways. But what do we do? Do we listen to our bodies? No, we don’t. We are SO good at giving other people great advice and suggestions but not giving ourselves the same advice. Well, it’s about time we all practice what we preach and apply

The Five Fs

We hear so much about mindset and reframing things to help us see things differently, but it’s still hard to put into practice. We know what we could and should be doing or attempt to do, but the ‘actual’ doing can still be hard, particularly when we’ve done the same thing for a very long time. Old habits die hard as they say! Below are the Five Fs to help you consider those steps you may wish to take to help you rethink what you do, how you do it to achieve the different outcome you desire. Fear – We are likely to be our worst obstacle that holds us back from taking those brave new steps or breaking out of our old habits. Changing our fear into excitement, seeing it as a challenge and not an obstacle is difficult but something which is doable and achievable. Failure – Our

Which lane are you in or are you still signalling to get on!

One thing I’ve come to believe is that no matter where we are on our journey and no matter what we do along the way, we are still learning. When we learn and grow and try new things we feel out of our depth, lose a little confidence and suffer setbacks. It’s almost as if our lives are a road of which we have choices in which direction we go in, which lane we are on and can choose which exits we want to take and when. We do however, need to know where we’re going when we get on the road, otherwise we are going to get lost and possibly end up on a road we can’t exit easily, sometimes because the traffic is just going far too fast. For some of us we slip onto the main road easily, confidently, entering the traffic with skill and ease. We

Time for Change

What is change all about and why do we fear it the way we do? We have two choices to embrace it or resist it! What makes us choose which option and why? Change is a huge part of our lives. They say the most consistent in our lives is change, and yet for most of us we fear it or avoid it like the plague! Change is the constant, although totally unpredictable and can affect us in many ways. I see there are two key categories of change, one where the change is imposed upon us, for example, your job has changed, you are made redundant or you are no longer able to work. The other is that upon which we impose upon ourselves, for example, where we want to personally or professionally improve. We know we must change to keep up with others or stay in business, but

Listening to our bodies

I was mindful of how much mindset is in our lives, with a busy schedule for most of us, deadlines to meet, full days, insufficient downtime and having those goals which we set ourselves often putting pressure on us to achieve even more next time. Whilst having goals are all well and good, so is listening to our bodies. We often ignore what our bodies tell us due to the pressure of work, deadlines and pressure sometimes from our peers or employers. It’s interesting when an animal feels sick, let’s say a dog or cat, it finds somewhere quiet and often dark to rest and recuperate. What do we do? We ignore the signals are bodies tell us, because we see these outside pressures as more important than listening to what our bodies are telling us. This led me to wonder why we might do this. The reasons are ones

Changing the Switch

Why is it the jobs we don’t want to do and push ourselves to do are SO hard? Everything just seems too big to handle or to accomplish! I was reminded of this when I was running and speaking to a colleague recently which helped me change my mindset and attitude towards something, I’ve made myself do but hate doing. I started running a couple of years ago. I’ve always run on treadmills and hated them, now run on park runs and other community runs as part of my fitness regime, but still just ‘hate’ running, always have and always will! It’s a challenge to get out of bed every Saturday morning and run, especially if it’s cold, dark, wet or generally uninviting. Twice last year and so far, twice this year I’ve run 10km and noticed how different my mindset was when I started. At the start I kept

Clear or Misty View?

At this time of year, we know we should be putting together a framework for the year; planning our goals, setting our actions and putting together doable SMART tasks for each week to help us achieve our aims! This can add pressure to us and feel more like a challenge than an incentive to grow or business to where we want it to be. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming, like there’s so much to achieve, not knowing exactly where to start or even how we are going to get there. We need an emotional benefit with every goal to build in that incentive, that reward, that ‘good feel factor’ to spur us on to plan. We know we need to take time from our business to focus on our strategy, but sometimes we are caught up in the operational activities the long-term goals just get put to one side. How

What do you live or hope for?

Are you someone who keeps trying and trying and never seeming to get anywhere fast? Do you have dreams and hopes which never seem to materialise? Do you often feel like all the hard work and effort you’ve put into things was hardly worth it? It’s interesting how we measure ourselves against how well we feel we achieved. We often see others performing much better than us, or do they? Isn’t that just our perception? We always revert to the default of being our own worst enemy, only seeing our flaws and our failings, focusing only on what we didn’t do rather than what we did. What do you live or hope for? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Do you know the answer?If you have asked yourself and answered yourself, are you working towards that goal? We know that we avoid setting goals for the fear of failure,

Are You a Halfway Harry or Harriet?

To do things halfway means to leave the job or task unfinished, to fail to do much that was necessary or expected, to take half measures. Normally, we wouldn’t drive to the middle of nowhere, turn around and come back. Likewise, we wouldn’t just climb up the stairs or walk into a room, then turn around and climb back down again or walk back from where we started (unless of course we forgot what we were going there for!). It’s said that we need to “Be all in or get all out. There is no halfway.” And this is true isn’t it, halfway measures don’t get the job done and leaves things unfinished and incomplete. It could be said as John Updike said, “Halfway isn’t all the way, but it’s better than no way”. Whilst this might be true, in that it’s better to get started than do nothing, but