Now’s the time to take that mental holiday!

It’s times like these when we struggle with not being able to do what we want. Travel overseas, visit friends and family far away. We might not be able to take a proper holiday, however, we could take a ‘mental holiday’! Find yourself somewhere quiet and comfortable to sit and relax and shut your eyes and start picturing yourself beginning your holiday. This might start from the planning of the holiday or the day you’re packing to leave, really feeling that excitement of your forthcoming journey. Then imagine you’ve arrived at your destination. This might be somewhere hot with blue skies, crystal blue seas and white sands with your ‘villa’ overlooking tranquil views. For some, this might be a hard exercise to do, trying to let our imagination take us somewhere, but stay with it. When you succeed it’s one of the most relaxing exercises you can do. You might

What is Self-Care? Do you practice Self-Care?

Self-care is about how we care for our whole self, our wellbeing, which includes our emotional, physical, psychological and spiritual health. Self-care replenishes and renews our health and wellbeing. Self-care is about doing something for you, only you, to help with your overall health and wellness. How we self-care is different for everyone; we have to find our best way to care for ourselves as one size doesn’t fit all. Tips for Self-Care:Creating a time in the day everyday – creating a self-care routine enables us to prioritise us, ensuring we have time to chill, relax, unwind, re-energise, do things that give and bring us joy Everyday journaling – the key to self-care is to start with one specific activity and that’s the act of writing down our thoughts, feelings, activities, achievements, anticipated goals or actions for us 2. Top and Tail journaling – there are various schools of thoughts

Tips for Setting Smart and Surprising Goals

It may not surprise your that your goals are there to inspire you and not to make your feel like they are a chore. If our goals are there to inspire us then why do so many people set goals and not achieve them, or for some don’t even write down goals or set them as they know (or believe) they won’t achieve them so what’s the point! Goals are about creating action; positive action that will help us with our personal and professional development, take us outside our comfort zone, stretching us to achieve more to become a better person or better at what we do. Achieving goals or trying to achieve goals are fraught with so many obstacles and barriers that can feel so overwhelming, we either don’t know where to start or even how to start. We want to but just can’t get ourselves into ‘gear’ to

Facts – Memory – Behaviour Chain

Have you ever thought that our mind is just like an iceberg in that it consists of two parts, with the tip of the iceberg being the conscious mind which takes care of our daily decision-making, as well as dealing with all new situations, whereas the subconscious mind makes up the submerged part of the iceberg (the largest portion), which helps us deals with our learned behaviour. This is helpful for us to deal with situations that reoccur as we are using information already stored in our minds. This is why when we come to do a task again our mind remembers how we behaved last time, so if it’s a bad experience e.g. we got hurt, then we will remember that hurt or if it’s a task we do regularly then our mind forms that mental picture giving us the ability of recall. Everything that happens to us sits

You only have one life – are you living this the way you want?

You only have one life – are you living this the way you want? Are you able to truthfully state what you want from your life?Do you have a clear-cut master plan to achieve what you want from your life?Does this master plan precisely determine when you will achieve what you want from your life? These are some questions I might ask clients to help them with their thinking around where they’re at, where they want to be, as well as why and determine how they might consider getting there. Can we honestly say we take ‘time out’ to consider this? Usually we are too busy aren’t we, however, if we did pause for a small period of time to consider what challenges or obstacles lay ahead and what we might need in terms of help, support, advice, guidance to motivate and inspire us to start, continue and complete, wouldn’t

What type of team player are you?

We all have different roles in life, at home, at work, in business. We behave differently at different times dependent upon various situations and adopt distinct roles, behaviours, traits and reactions. When we hold these roles, we may be inside or outside our comfort zone which will change our behaviour also. In a team, we always need a leader, and we need good team players who perform separate roles. Those who challenge things, those who facilitate situations to assist, whilst others may be resistant to participate. Edwards de Bono has his Six Thinking Hats which explains this in more detail and is helpful particularly in meetings or work situations. What we do know is a team player is someone who enthusiastically contributes to their team to complete tasks and to achieve team goals. A key attribute of a team member is to actively listen to their co-workers, respecting each other’s

You are not alone! Did you know?

Glossophobia or speech anxiety is the fear of public speaking. “According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death! Death is number two! Does that sound right? That means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you’re better off in the casket than doing the eulogy”. Jerry Seinfeld As a former glossophobic myself very many years ago, I can relate to this totally. Now I’m comfortable speaking in front of any size audience and enjoying being at the front making people aware of my business, my services or a topic that I know people will relate to. But how do we get to this point? One of the ways is to treat your presentation just like you’re having a conversation with someone. As soon as you treat it as something different, the nerves and doubts kick in. Nerves are something we

Seeing the Possibilities or Value Opportunity

Depending on our mindset, and our power of positivity, the value we place on things will and can create extraordinary things. You may or may not have heard of the story that talks about the following: A bar of iron costs about $5Made into horseshoes, it's worth $12Made into needles, it's worth $3,500Made into balance-springs for watches, it's worth $300,000 It’s said that: “Value is determined by what you are able to make out of something. Each substantial increase above is born out of two things: an idea AND a skill”. Your value is determined also by what you are able to make of yourself and having the power of positivity! Seeing the possibilities or value opportunity “When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears.” Tony Robbins “The key to abundance is meeting limited circumstances with unlimited thoughts.” Marianne Williamson “See yourself living in abundance and you will attract

You don’t have TIME to read this do you?

I wish I had more time!There aren’t enough hours in my day!I really need to make more time!If I do this, I will save so much timeI’ll do this when I get round to it!My time just runs away with me! I bet you’ve said at least one of the above at some point in your life, haven’t you? The thing is we all have the same amount of hours in the day, it’s how we make use of it that matters. We all have good intentions of starting, stopping, do less of or more of ‘tomorrow’. But unfortunately tomorrow never comes, and so it goes on. At times feel we have wasted so much time in our day and feel so unproductive at the end of a day and yet never ‘stop’ to consider why we weren’t productive or how we might make changes to make best use of

Communication isn’t all about talking

It’s interesting isn’t it that we all talk to each other, at work and at home, with family, work colleagues and friends, and yet we can all misunderstand one another, misinterpret what the other person has said, and relationships as a result can go pear-shaped! There are so many ways we can communicate, face to face, phone, video or texting. Face to face is always best but we can’t always do this and so when we resort to phone, video or texting, things can be misinterpreted more easily. The other thing that we need to take into consideration is our own preferences. For some face to face is always best, others either love or hate using the phone. We often therefore avoid a particular form of communication because of this, and this can start to cause an added barrier in our own communication and our communication with others. So how