Believe in YOU and NEVER give up…

Amelia Earhart was quoted to have said “The most difficult thing is the decision to act; the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do.” The paper tigers she refers to means “something or someone that claims or appears to be powerful or threatening but is actually ineffectual and unable to withstand challenge.” I often talk about perceived obstacles, barriers or fear with clients, in that they may feel very real but they’re actually not, however, we must try and act on fact and evidence rather than feelings believing them to be reality. When we are working towards our vision or aiming to obtain our goals, setbacks and bumps in the road are inevitable and unavoidable. To enable us to get past these roadblocks we need tenacity, determination and perseverance to see us through. This can be hard when we are

How aware are you about what makes you tick?

We know we have attributes and skills, however, sometimes it’s hard to determine what the difference is between them both in terms of what we can learn and what we have inherently within us. An attribute is seen as a quality or characteristic of a person, place or thing and is seen as inherent rather than something that is taught. A skill on the other hand is seen as something that can be learned through training and something we can improve on to better ourselves. If skills are learned and attributes are inherent then which is called upon in the face of adversity? At times of adversity, we need to use our resilience. This is another word which is used a great deal, and none more than the last year or so, but what does it mean and what steps or strategies can we use to help us cope? Here

Living to Your Values

Personally: Do you know what your personal values are? Would you be able to reel these off if and when asked? Do you live up to your personal values, or are they something you aspire to? Professionally: Does your business have core values? Does your business uphold your values? Could you define your business core values if you don’t have them? What are our values? Our personal values are our moral compass which help define us and help guide us through life. They may determine our friends, partners, behaviour and even decision-making. Often, we are more aware of the values we hate or can’t stand. Those deal-breakers we absolutely won’t tolerate on any level, and sometimes this is the place to start, what we don’t want in our lives before we can determine what we do want in our lives. When we do take time out to define our values

Can you imagine your future?

Wouldn’t it be fantastic if we could see into the future or have a crystal ball and know that what we are doing will lead us to the destination we want and that it will be good for us. We can dream about our future, more of a pipe-dream perhaps where we imagine all sorts of things that are probably unlikely for us to ever achieve, but it can be good fun drifting away into this fantasy land every once in a while. However, if we take this down a level and instead of day-dreaming pipe-dreams we instead consider what our desired future could be, so we can not only see what it could look like but even feel what it might be like. Visualisation is such a powerful exercise and can be inspiring and a source of creative power that can motivate us to propel forward often giving us

Do you know the Features and Benefits of your Business?

As a business owner, do you know and understand what your business features are? As a business owner, do you understand what the benefits you provide to your clients or customers? If you don’t, then how can you promote yourself well, confidently and articulately! As business owners, we need to understand how we are different to other similar or same businesses and be able to shine uniquely. When asked, can you say in what way your business is unique or different? Can you explain specifically what your point of difference is? There are a couple of things that can hinder us from doing these things. One is confidence in ourselves as a business owner; having self-belief in what we do and who we are, and well as feeling comfortable in our own skin to be proud to say what we do AND that we are good or even great at

Achieve more by going at a slower pace

Now I’m sure you’ve heard of the story of the tortoise and the hare? “The hare is very confident of winning, so it stops during the race and falls asleep. The tortoise continues to move very slowly but without stopping and finally it wins the race. The moral lesson of the story is that you can be more successful by doing things slowly and steadily than by acting quickly and carelessly”. Have you ever thought that to GO SLOW or SLOWER you might achieve more? If nothing else COVID-19 and lockdown this time last year taught us, was that we can get caught up in the ‘carousel of life’ wishing we could ‘stop the bus’, but not knowing how or even when. COVID-19 and the lockdown caused the whole world to stop and when we did, we had time to think, to breathe, to reflect, to contemplate where we are,

Knowing when to let go and give up!

For most of us, we were encouraged to ‘try, try and try again’, ‘if at first you don’t succeed, try again’ and many other sayings that were drummed into us as children. Whilst it’s important to keep trying, it is equally important to know exactly when it is the right time to let go and give up. We need to have some indicators that tell us we are now ‘banging our head against a brick wall’ and it’s time to ‘call it quits’, to ‘walk away’. We need to manage our emotions, because they could be screaming at us to keep going or yelling at us to give up! Which one do we listen to when they are both so loud, we can’t ‘hear ourselves think!’ We know that in our lives we are continually learning and growing, and that our growth and development isn’t going to be easy, and

What’s more important being SMART or understanding WHY?

We all know that we should set goals, and that our goals should be SMART, Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timebound. We also know that our goals give us our ‘end’ result, enable us to imagine what the end result looks like and provide us with a roadmap on how we are going to get there. However, not all of us have goals, let alone write them down. And for those who do write them down, they still aren’t achieved because they get forgotten, are too hard, or being avoided. We are quite selfish and want to know ‘WIIFM’ (what’s in it for me). In other words, there needs to be a reward, an incentive, an emotional benefit, otherwise we are less likely to even start our goal, let alone work through it or even achieve it! But there is another step that comes before all of this, and that

Do you see procrastination as a reward or a punishment?

Time management is probably one of the biggest areas I work with clients on, as without good, structured time plans days can be wasted, time lost, and productivity decreased which in turn affects income generation. One of the causes of not achieving tasks or activities is procrastination, however, I would suggest that it depends on what we procrastinate on, why and what we do with the time we’ve gained by procrastinating in the first place. Before we judge ourselves for procrastinating, we should delve deep within ourselves to determine WHY we procrastinate in the first place and on what before chastising ourselves for this ‘bad habit’. Delaying or rescheduling something important that has a firm deadline of course is not good and can affect our income, our business or our job. However, delaying or rescheduling something for a justifiable reason could be seen as being sensible and cautious. For example,

What lies beneath is what matters

Most of what we show others is the best version of ourselves. This may be a façade, our armour, our uniform, hat or ‘face’ creating this invisible ‘shield’ that protects us and stops others from seeing the real us, i.e. what’s going on inside. What we see is people exuding certain behaviours when they know they are being observed, i.e. in work or in public. But what about the invisible things, the things that others can’t see, sometimes those things that even we don’t want to see or acknowledge. Our emotions when things are difficult can be strong and obvious and we try to keep them hidden, covering them up to try and show ourselves and others we are strong, can cope and manage with our current situation. What can make our emotions worse is what we think. And often our negative thinking, fixed mindset and bad habits cause our