It’s Just the Way I Am and Always Will Be!

How often have you heard yourself say, “I’ve always done this” or “I’ve always avoided this”? What we think and say we believe, and what we believe becomes reality, but is it? By repeatedly doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome, or habitually continuing to do the things we know we shouldn’t because they don’t achieve something positive just further embeds our believe we ‘can’t’ do the things we want to or continually avoid the things we know we need to face. This ‘bad’ habit isn’t helpful, and can be a soul destroyer, and just emphasises our believes in ourselves resulting in self-fulfilling prophesies! We can make the changes in our lives we want to, it’s not the way you are or the way we are! We weren’t born like that; we became like that due to something in our lives which has created a ‘perceived’ obstacle or

I Should Be So Lucky!

I’m sure you will be like most people and truly believe there are lucky people in this world that just seem to have nothing but good luck all the time, with everything they touch turning to gold! Whilst the others, seem to forever have bad luck at every turn, one after the other making them feel they are a total failure. But can we make our own luck or is it inherent in us? What are the traits ‘lucky people’ have? Perhaps we can see if we can make some of them rub off on us, or even polish up some of those traits that we do have but haven’t made the best use of? Now you might be one of those people who always grasps an opportunity, or you might be the person who swerves away from opportunity knocking with the fear that moving into the unknown is just

How to be a Great Business Owner

How to be a Great Business Owner If you are a business owner or thinking about being a business owner you need to have a number of great skills to get you going and keep you going. How do we know what these skills are and if we have them? Below are some tips for those up and coming business owners who wish to be able to grow their business more than what they’re already doing. Organisation – As a business owner you need to be adaptable, flexible, be great at time management and organisation skills. Part of being organised is spending time ON the business as well as IN the business, and to do this it requires planning, so our organisation skills are fundamental in achieving business growth Competition – You might have a great product or service; however, you need to be able to show others how your

Taking Risks and Learning from Mistakes

How do you fare with taking risks?Do you learn from your mistakes?Are you risk adverse or are you a risk-taker? Whatever you answered above, I’m sure you like many people you have taken risks whether by choice or enforced and felt they were either big mistakes or the best decision ever made. But how do we try and change our perceptions about risk-taking and making potentially big mistakes? Most of us were brought up being encouraged to take chances, stepping outside our comfort zone, stepping into the unknown, and yet we often take less risks the older we get as our fear of failure seems to increase. Why is this? What changes in us? What makes us more risk adverse? Let’s look at what risk feels like in the first place. Is it a calculated risk or is it a risk you are willing to take with the odds stacked

Developing Your Own Changing Room!

Change! The definition being to make or become different; alter; to replace with or exchange for another to change; to transform or convert or to be transformed or converted. Most of us resist change, particularly if we aren’t in control or part of that change process. There are some of us who embrace change and see change as being an opportunity rather than a nuisance. If we aren’t prepared for change then how can we embrace it with confidence? There’s a lot to be said about staying put, remaining in our little cocoon, our comfort zone, safe, or appearing safe. However, we aren’t standing-still are we? We are going backwards because most other people are changing and moving forward. You may feel we don’t really have a choice, change is inevitable and we have to think positively about change itself, how we might change and how this might affect us,

Be positive and great powers will come to your aid!

Often, we are faced with challenges which derail us sending us into a downward spiral of negativity and hopelessness. When this happens, we can’t stop the feeling of impending gloom or doom. We find it hard to focus on any strands of positivity. I’m sure like me you come across people who always seem to be and remain positive despite the challenges they face. In fact, I would go as far as saying that those with the most challenges and dire circumstances seem to be the most determined and positive people I’ve ever met. But where do they get it from? Is it learned, is it inherent in us, were we always like this or did it materialise because of our circumstances? Alternatively, perhaps it’s a choice with positive people; they decide to choose the positive option or is it something they work on? I wonder how anyone with continued

The ‘F’ Word!

The ‘F’ Word! What is it about the ‘F’ word that we hate? The word failure is seeped with emotions, stress, memories which can trigger so many responses from us – one of them is flee! Yes, we flee from potential failure, but why? Just the mere thought of failing can bring about so many feelings within us of our own inabilities, inadequacies, that we want to avoid at all costs. And yet failure whilst difficult, you could argue is a definite, a certainty isn’t it? Failure involves us stepping outside our comfort zone, doing things we don’t feel totally confident in doing, taking risks whether large or small. We avoid facing or taking these risks because we fear failure. And yet, we know that taking risks will by default, regardless of whether we succeed or fail, help us grow in confidence. With the ‘at least we tried’ mentality! As

Confidence – Are we Born With It or Is It Learned?

Wow! Talk about a leading question, however, the reason I wanted to cover this today was because it has cropped up a couple of times with various people I’ve spoken to recently which led me to think there are a few ‘schools of thought’ out there and perhaps it was worth mentioning these to gauge your thoughts and to get you thinking about whether your confidence is where you want it to be and if not what you might be able to do about it from now on. It is commonly believed that confidence isn’t something that can be learned, like learning how to drive a car, but that it’s more of a state of mind. If we work on the basis that it’s based on our state of mind, then we know confidence comes more from how we feel about ourselves. Our own self-belief and how we feel about

Identifying the Bottleneck In Your Business!

Do you have a bottleneck in your business? Can you identify exactly what that bottleneck is? Do you know how to reduce or remove the bottleneck? These are some of the questions I would like you to consider today particularly for those of you who are in a new, small or medium business. Sometimes we may be a single person enterprise or have a team of helpers who may be direct employees or partners. Either way it’s usually us who must deal with the strategic elements of our business. We need to be able to look ahead to determine what is coming up, however, the day to day running of our business can sometimes take over, preventing potential bottlenecks. This is fine of course if we can ‘see’ the bottleneck coming up! As we know things happen when we least expect, and with the best will in the world we

It’s Relationships That Get Us Through Isn’t It?

After the tragic and traumatic events of last Friday imprinted images are embedded in all our minds. We all left reeling with waves of varying emotions within us, from anger, frustration, sadness, confusion and many more. Like any senseless act which takes innocent lives, it makes us wonder what in the world are we coming to when we all live in the same ‘place’ and should be living in harmony and peace and not war and hatred. Today, however, I wanted to focus more on how we manage dealing with ‘events’ that may affect us directly and indirectly, and how we might manage to work out how we process what has happened, move forward, working through our feelings, thoughts and memories of that day. We are a social animal, and as such need interaction with others, particularly in the aftermath of something that affects all of us in many ways.