There’s no point climbing to the top of the ladder if you don’t like heights!

We all have our goals, aims, desires and ambitions, don’t we? We all strive to reach them the best way we can, don’t we? But do we really know if they are the right ones for us? Are we chasing a rainbow never reaching the pot of gold? Read on to see if you’re on the right track or not! There was an example I read recently in a coaching book which talked about a man whose main and only ambition and goal was to earn enough to have $1 million in his bank account. For many years he worked like a trojan, head down and tail up to achieve his goal, his main desire in life! Sadly, when he achieved his goal, he thought he would feel great and certainly feel that sense of achievement seeing the $1m bank balance, but he didn’t! This was a huge disappointment for

Finding the right direction in life

Do you know which direction you are going in life or whether it’s the right direction for you? There are some of us that still feel what we are doing isn’t what we would ideally love to be doing, we just know that what we are doing isn’t right for us, now or in the future. Others felt they had found their perfect ‘place’ whether this be a job or house or business or career, but later find this isn’t it! But what is IT? How do we know if we are heading in the right direction, and better still, how do we know where to look or even what we are looking for? What we do know is when something isn’t right. Some migrants who moved to NZ for a change in lifestyle, speak of driving along the motorway or rather being at a standstill on a motorway at

It’s Why NOT What!

You are in business? You want people to buy your service or product? You are constantly promoting and selling your ‘wares’? Let me ask you a question! Is it working for you? Because there might be another way! As a business owner, whilst we don’t like to boast about what we do, we know we are good at what we do and are passionate about the service or product we provide, and to be successful gaining clients and generating revenue we are constantly out there prospecting to promote ourselves and our business. But, have you ever thought about HOW we are doing this and if WHAT we are saying is the right way or the best way? We all know what it’s like to have someone do the hard-sell on us, for example, when we walk into a shop and we are pounced on or the retail assistant loiters close

Grateful or Gripe! Keeping It Simple!

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Are you one of those people who are always appreciative of everything you have or are you one of those who complain about everything you don’t have! How grateful are you for what you have, where you are and what you are doing? Or are you one of these people who might expect nothing less! Do you regularly show your gratitude about how things are or focus on griping about how things should be and aren’t?! As quoted by Melody Beattie “Gratitude turns what we have into good enough”. Zig Ziglar said, “The more you gripe about your problems, the more problems you have to gripe about!” As referred to in the Law Attraction, what messages we send out is what is drawn towards us. We might be guilty of taking things for granted, and we do this because it might be what we expect, or have always had, and

Fly Like a Butterfly Sting Like a Bee

What does the phrase fly like a butterfly sting like a bee mean? Just before entering the ring, Clay said what would become one of his most famous quotes, and a phrase used to define his fighting style: "Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. The hands can't hit what the eyes can't see." What happened in the end? Clay won by a technical knockout. It seems hard to believe that our own belief systems can be changed and that our mind is powerful enough to believe in something if we tell ourselves enough. Don’t our children believe in what we tell them? What happens when our child hurts themselves? “Mummy, I’ve hurt myself”. We ‘kiss’ it better and the child skips away quite happy in the belief their hurt is now all better. Isn’t this what Muhamad Ali did? He felt that what he couldn’t see couldn’t hurt

It IS Possible to Change Your Core Beliefs and Behaviours

“It's the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.” Muhammad Ali If only we realised that we are in control of how we think and feel, how we choose to behave and our emotional reactions to things that happen in our lives. To start changing our core beliefs, we must change our behaviour, which starts with making a pact with ourselves, having a mental agreement that we will change our perspective and our viewpoint about ourselves and how we react to the challenges we have in our lives. I’ve used fear of public speaking or fear of spiders before to illustrate examples as these are easy for most of us to relate to. Fear of public speaking or spiders is not a core belief it is our reaction to that belief, our emotional reaction to what we perceive

Always believe in yourself!

“Believing in others is easy. It’s believing in yourself that’s the real challenge” Giuseppe Bianco Do you believe in yourself? You know if you don’t no-one else will! But if we believe in ourselves, eventually everyone else will start believing in us also. We must be responsible for creating our own happiness and should always live our lives with meaning. If only we understood that if we believe in ourselves then we would be unstoppable, with anything being possible! It’s being determined and saying I know what I want and I’m going to get it, and getting it! Belief is the best investment you can make in yourself. So, how can we start the process in investing in ourselves? Motivation – Motivate yourself to get you started and remember that eventually believing in yourself will become a habit. Imagine – This is the first secret. Using your mind to really

Being Wise Like an Owl is a Hoot!

We hear about belief systems a great deal, but what are they and how can we use them to help us day to day? As the saying goes: “A wise old owl sat in an oak. The more he heard the less he spoke, The less he spoke the more he heard, Why can’t we all be like that wise old bird”. Unknown author Whilst we are trying to be all things to all people and sometimes being a master of none, we are also trying to tackle those things which we aren’t experienced or knowledgeable in and end up overwhelmed, or worse still being burnt out! Here are FIVE tips which I want to share with you: Listening to others – we often think we know best because we don’t want to show our ignorance or lack of knowledge in something, but listening to others and being open about

Is public speaking your fear?

Did you know that the fear of public speaking is higher than the fear of death or dying? This may be a surprise to some, but for others I’m sure you can relate to this. Public speaking is a great means of communication, and promoting your business, however, if you have a fear of public speaking, then you minimise your chances or opportunities of effectively and successfully ‘selling and promoting’ your services and your business. Usually those people who fear public speaking avoid it at all costs, however, when you are a business owner, it’s something that’s almost unavoidable. For example, most new business owners, join networking groups to get to know other like-minded people, where there is an expectation of giving a presentation, whether it’s sitting informally round a table, or standing up giving a formal presentation. Are you prepared? Do you have the skill? Is it something you

Just pick up the phone!

“As a leader, you must consistently drive effective communication. Meetings must be deliberate and intentional - your organisational rhythm should value purpose over habit and effectiveness over efficiency”. Chris Fussell This quote made me think that as a leader, we are responsible for driving effective communication! This quote talks about communication being deliberate and intentional, and having a purpose. But it should also have a value purpose and be effective. Nowadays, we are spoilt rotten with so many options of communication, which is great, but is it really? Do we often not default to something other than talking? I am reminded of this almost daily when I am either emailing, texting or messaging someone. Usually halfway through several messages backwards and forwards, I think to myself, “Why don’t I just pick up the phone and talk to the person!” I am guessing you have often felt the same, or had