You only have one life – are you living this the way you want? Are you able to truthfully state what you want from your life?Do you have a clear-cut master plan to achieve what you want from your life?Does this master plan precisely determine when you will achieve what you want from your life? These are some questions I might ask clients to help them with their thinking around where they’re at, where they want to be, as well as why and determine how they might consider getting there. Can we honestly say we take ‘time out’ to consider this? Usually we are too busy aren’t we, however, if we did pause for a small period of time to consider what challenges or obstacles lay ahead and what we might need in terms of help, support, advice, guidance to motivate and inspire us to start, continue and complete, wouldn’t
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We all have different roles in life, at home, at work, in business. We behave differently at different times dependent upon various situations and adopt distinct roles, behaviours, traits and reactions. When we hold these roles, we may be inside or outside our comfort zone which will change our behaviour also. In a team, we always need a leader, and we need good team players who perform separate roles. Those who challenge things, those who facilitate situations to assist, whilst others may be resistant to participate. Edwards de Bono has his Six Thinking Hats which explains this in more detail and is helpful particularly in meetings or work situations. What we do know is a team player is someone who enthusiastically contributes to their team to complete tasks and to achieve team goals. A key attribute of a team member is to actively listen to their co-workers, respecting each other’s
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Glossophobia or speech anxiety is the fear of public speaking. “According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death! Death is number two! Does that sound right? That means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you’re better off in the casket than doing the eulogy”. Jerry Seinfeld As a former glossophobic myself very many years ago, I can relate to this totally. Now I’m comfortable speaking in front of any size audience and enjoying being at the front making people aware of my business, my services or a topic that I know people will relate to. But how do we get to this point? One of the ways is to treat your presentation just like you’re having a conversation with someone. As soon as you treat it as something different, the nerves and doubts kick in. Nerves are something we
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Depending on our mindset, and our power of positivity, the value we place on things will and can create extraordinary things. You may or may not have heard of the story that talks about the following: A bar of iron costs about $5Made into horseshoes, it's worth $12Made into needles, it's worth $3,500Made into balance-springs for watches, it's worth $300,000 It’s said that: “Value is determined by what you are able to make out of something. Each substantial increase above is born out of two things: an idea AND a skill”. Your value is determined also by what you are able to make of yourself and having the power of positivity! Seeing the possibilities or value opportunity “When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears.” Tony Robbins “The key to abundance is meeting limited circumstances with unlimited thoughts.” Marianne Williamson “See yourself living in abundance and you will attract
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I wish I had more time!There aren’t enough hours in my day!I really need to make more time!If I do this, I will save so much timeI’ll do this when I get round to it!My time just runs away with me! I bet you’ve said at least one of the above at some point in your life, haven’t you? The thing is we all have the same amount of hours in the day, it’s how we make use of it that matters. We all have good intentions of starting, stopping, do less of or more of ‘tomorrow’. But unfortunately tomorrow never comes, and so it goes on. At times feel we have wasted so much time in our day and feel so unproductive at the end of a day and yet never ‘stop’ to consider why we weren’t productive or how we might make changes to make best use of
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It’s interesting isn’t it that we all talk to each other, at work and at home, with family, work colleagues and friends, and yet we can all misunderstand one another, misinterpret what the other person has said, and relationships as a result can go pear-shaped! There are so many ways we can communicate, face to face, phone, video or texting. Face to face is always best but we can’t always do this and so when we resort to phone, video or texting, things can be misinterpreted more easily. The other thing that we need to take into consideration is our own preferences. For some face to face is always best, others either love or hate using the phone. We often therefore avoid a particular form of communication because of this, and this can start to cause an added barrier in our own communication and our communication with others. So how
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A HUG is a Huge Unbelievable Goal. I am sure you’ve all heard of big hairy audacious goals or B-HAG? These are usually defined as a something a business or organisation might ultimately strive for. Something that’s clear and compelling that the whole team can get behind and work towards. They are designed to change how we do business, achieving the impossible, taking us out of our comfort zone, having a long-term commitment. However, recently I came across something I liked even better! A HUG! A huge unbelievable goal! Doesn’t this sound much better?Isn’t this something we can all relate to?Might this be something we can more easily remember and aspire to? If we wanted to break down what a HUG really is, we would need to do the following: Determine what it is you really want – This can be quite hard for some, and very hard for others.
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We are either a goal-setting person or we aren’t. We might write them down and forget them or not even write them down. We may be in the minority and fastidiously follow our goals and actions to the letter. To give ourselves a better chance of achieving our goals there are things we can do. Before you set goals this year, consider the following: Begin with revising your current goals – Rather than starting afresh, it’s better to keep our previous or current goals to identify why you didn’t achieve, were they clear enough, were they measurable and achievable; revising or refreshing them is often a good place to start. Link your goals to a greater goal or purpose – If we focus on what the big picture is, what our main aim, vision or goal is before writing or revising our goals we can at least picture what it
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I am sure you like me had school report cards that often read: “could do better”? There’s a quote by Maya Angelou that says: “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” What I like about this quote against the school report cards is that the first one always feels like we’ve let ourselves down and everyone else, whereas the quote indicates our path in life is growth and we do this in our own time and in our own way.. Compare that quote with this one also from Maya Angelou which reads: “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” For me, this quote says what we did then is ‘good enough’ and now we have a better understanding of ourselves and what we can and need to do we can try
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I heard this saying recently: “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow it only saps today of its joy” This is so true on many levels, isn’t it? We worry about things that may never happen, which can often ruin our day – and yet we can’t turn the ‘worry wart’ off can we? Worry is usually a concern that something bad or untoward is going to happen or may happen which we fret about continually inhibiting us, invading our thoughts, affecting our emotions and often also affect us physically too. Our worries usually stem from a setback or a problem or issue that’s occurred and which wasn’t planned for. It’s said: “The comeback is always stronger than the setback”. Something that’s good to remember and have as a mantra to help us put things into context. Sir Tom Moore said: “Tomorrow will be a good day; remember tomorrow will
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